Let´s talk about relationships! First of all we have to deep inside us realize we are responsible for our own happiness. We always have the choice to decide if we will let another person affect our emotions or not. No one else can make us happy. We have the power to decide for ourselves. When we come to that point that we take 100 % control over our own well-being and leave our partner/friend/family member out of the picture – we can truly free ourselves and become a fulltime happy person.. and attract like-minded people! The problem with relationships when you observe them, is that you see people holding another person as the object of their attention; If only he did like that I would be happy, If only she showed me more attention, if the bus driver could make it in time… You get the point! All of us can probably think about situations during the day when we have let someone else have the control over our feelings and given them the power to affect our well-being.
So how can we shift the energy? Now we know that we have the power of our emotions and we can start to consciously work on not letting anyone affect our feelings. Be aware it takes time! So be patient but it gets much easier and the peace you will feel within you is beyond worth the effort.
Every time you feel negatively affected by someone else STOP and BREATHE – don´t rush in to an argument and don´t say or do anything. If you do, you will only act from a point of disconnection from yourself and you will most likely say something stupid that you probably would not say in a state of calmness. Tell yourself, what someone else does has nothing to do with me, no one can affect me, I am powerful and I am in charge of my own life. These are very powerful statements that will immediately shift your energy from a frustrated point to calmness. If we decide to pracitse this every time we feel disconnection and notice we have given the power to someone else, we will within a short time see an amazing tranquility rise in our body and mind. When we have come to a point that we mostly feel a nice calmness flowing in our body – we must only attract people that are at the same level. However, we will occasionally meet people that will push our buttons but with a positive mindset we will see it as practice to keep calm in every situation, and also as a powerful sign that we have something within us that is attracting a “button-pusher” that we need to work on. If someone is stressing us it could mean we have been walking around the last days feeling anxious for something, and now suddenly things and situations that are related to that feeling are appearing in our life.
When we take control of our emotions, we gain the control over our LIFE! That is dear friend as powerful as it can be. We will share more thoughts about relationships later on as well since it is something everyone of us are dealing with constantly. Since we decided to work on our own mental relationship and from there the people we interact with, we have been amazed how powerful it is and how many beautiful people you will encounter. But more of that later on! 🙂 Before we leave you for now we also want to share with you another powerful little text written by Osho;
“Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have the integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to stand alone. And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives without any strings attached to it. When two mature persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Only freedom and love.”
Julie & Katrin